Compliments... Straight to his Balls

Complimenting a guy. They always say shower a girl with compliments and stroke a man’s... er, ego. That being said, girls need to realize the power of compliments. Girls are really really good at complimenting each other. My dad brought something very important to my attention when I was young. He asked me what is the first thing two girls always say to each other when they meet?

I looooove the way you look tonight
Look at that dress! You are so hot
OMG, I love your hair
You are gorgeous, I’m going to look so bad next to you
Nice ass girl, you are going to kill tonight in those jeans

Haha, or whatever is said, but the point is, this truly is the very first thing uttered to each other… EVERY SINGLE TIME. They may not be sincere compliments or maybe they even secretly hate each other, but still it is how a conversation has to start between girls. It has to. Maybe guys should start it this way too? Yes, a good guy knows to make it the absolute first thing he says to a girl every time as well.

Now complimenting with guys is a little different. Sure, hit us up with compliments right away, they’re nice, but the more a guy hears something, the more it inflates the head. So back off those compliments a little bit. If you tell a guy he always smells good, then you don’t need to repeat it to him, he’ll remember he’s a bad ass.

I remember last month when she told me that I turned her on... man that’s hot.

If you keep telling him he looks so great in those jeans, or he is fucking hilarious, he is going to start pushing you away.

I’m sorry, let me back up. If you are already in a relationship with him then don’t worry, let the compliments fly, but if you’re trying to get him to like you, then you need to stop letting him know he’s hot shit.

So the way a compliment is received is different too. A girl likes hearing compliments because it helps to keep her insecurities in check. She keeps hearing and receiving them, then she starts to believe it herself. It’s good for her, she feels good… but only temporarily. She will need many more where that came from to maintain a healthy confidence.

A guy doesn’t receive them the same way. They are more absorbed by him, and each one increases his power, like a superhero. Each compliment is making him more and more full of himself. Eventually he is too good for her because he can get anybody in his inflated head, and can’t waste his time on her, etc. The compliment goes straight to his balls, and he is just a tool now. Realize this, and spot the ego. No need to add to it, keep those thoughts in your head.

Some guys don't care if there is a lack of compliments. If he's good, he’ll see your feelings through your eyes, and you’re done for, beware. More to come...